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Are You Practicing Self-Care or Just Performing It?
The fog set in this week—gray, drizzly, and disorienting. I thought I was practicing self-care while finishing my website: taking breaks, playing soothing music, even reaching for coffee to push through. But when I looked closer, I realized I was performing self-care while ignoring what my body actually needed. This is the moment we usually lash out or berate ourselves. But what if we paused instead? The liminal center of this season asks us to slow down enough to notice what we're actually doing and whether it's serving us.
Every Choice has the Possibility to create Coherence
Small choices. Big ripples. Real chemistry. Recently I chose to take a dance class for no reason other than it brings me joy and moves my body. A small thing, but here's the surprising part: the choice itself mattered more than the activity. The moment I said yes to something that delighted me, I felt the field around me shift. I was in alignment. The air cleared. Something new became possible. That's coherence. Not transcendence. Not escape. Just the simple power of an intentional choice rippling outward. What are you adding your energy to these days? What projects, people, ideas, and norms? Where is your attention flowing? And does that place feel like what you want to be creating more of?
Reset:Allowing the Nervous System to Soften
Reset your nervous system moment by moment by softening and allowing for pleasure. Last week we were in SunRiver, enjoying bikes, board games, and autumn's golden hues in the sunshine. Interestingly, I didn't think about work projects at all, which felt like a win, and the trip allowed my nervous system to reset in a deep and surprising way. Usually my mind is busy with ideas and projects, no matter where I am, so letting that go and simply being in the pleasure of the moment felt wonderful. The joy that simple pleasures bring is powerful medicine. I'm learning to value myself more in all things. These days, that looks like not continually producing, proving, or saying yes to opportunities that don't truly light me up. It takes courage, trust, and a willingness to live in the mystery of what is unfolding.
Choose Courage
Pivoting takes courage. It means letting vulnerability in and accepting the possibility of failing. It means the little critical voice will likely show up …
Tears…An Aspect of Who We Are
Tears aren’t a sign of weakness—they’re a reset button, a stress reliever and a way to connect with others.
Relationships…Time To Evolve?
It feels like opening a window after years of stale air. I feel more freedom, more power to be my whole authentic self and more potential for love.
Pivoting…To Take Charge
Instead of following the standard path often recommended for menopausal women, I’m taking another route.
Calm, Clear & Reasonable
3 Easy ways to Regain and Maintain your Sense of Calm, Clarity of Mind and Reasonableness of Thinking
Just Do You…Release The Rest
There’s a quiet kind of freedom that comes when we release the need to perform, prove or perfect ourselves.
Generating Joy
Slowing down, savoring simplicity and embracing presence. As I embrace this aspect of life more deeply, the projects I do are infused with more joyful intentionality and less with the stressful energy of functional productivity.
Create Personal Space
Do you have the space you need to hear your innermost thoughts, to follow your own guidance and to know what you truly want, need and dream of? Here are 3 steps that will create space and allow a calmer lifestyle to exist.
Contrast and Harmony
Contrast is the spice of life whether it’s in a painting, a book, a meal … and harmony brings it all together in a soothing and comforting way. This isn’t a new concept, but it’s come into my experience in a new way – through art and blood pressure.
Calm Your Overwhelm Series
Calming your fear and overwhelm may have become part of your daily routine over the last year. It certainly has been a trying time and we all need ways to navigate this.
Oh Those Critters
What did happen though was that the wild animals came closer and into our lives. I first really noticed it when I was outside in the garden, singing, one day.
Sailing with Stress
No one in their right mind tries to learn how to sail here on the Columbia River in the windsurfing capital of the world. Ok, admittedly, not the wisest move ever.
For the Well Being of All
Nature has its seasons. We are part of nature. So why is there so much resistance to natural cycles and flows in our culture? The short answer is due to
The Co-Creative Cycle
Inspiration - This comes as a result of pondering ideas that interest you. One catches your attention and begins to form. You roll it around, giving it more thought, exploring and playing with what it could be.
As the World Turns ...
Yes, our outer world is in massive transformation and I hold to the belief that we will come out of this living much more intentionally, respectfully and compassionately. But to get there requires all of us to do our part …
Here we are ... now what?
Activate the energies within that promote inner joy, peace, harmony and stillness. Fill yourself up so that what you contribute to the world is offered from a place of fullness and overflow.